Dream Job

“There is a prevalent notion that if you’re unhappy with your work it will take a Herculean effort to change things, that you have to quit and find your “dream job,” for the vast majority of people, that’s just nonsense. That’s not to say motivated people never change departments or companies, and we all can appreciate that if an individual is completely miscast or miserable it’s not good for them, their customers, or their managers. But most people don’t need to take a risky leap; instead they need to start by making small but important sculpting changes in their work lives. Many of the happiest people we’ve spoken with didn’t find their bliss down a new path; they made course corrections on the path they were already on.”

– Chester Elton via a good article on LinkedIn

Surfing the Waves of My Life.

I went to NYC again this weekend to see Surfer Boy, and it was a really awesome weekend. I had wanted to tell you about it.

That post will have to wait, however, because instead there is something that is eating away at my mood right now.

My mom had asked me how my date went when I got home around a hour ago, and I had begun to say it went well and that I liked him. How he seemed like a really nice guy. That I liked how he was active person since he surfs.

She interrupts me with, “Just as long as you don’t.”

I tried to explain how she can’t say things in that way to me. I am going to be 30 in almost 6 months – October – and she can’t say “just as long as you don’t” as if she is in control of whether I do or don’t. That’s not a parental right of hers anymore.

Her response. “Well, you know I’m a worrier and I just don’t want you to get hurt…I want you to think about it first.”

Now, before you think that I don’t appreciate my mom,  I love her very much. Loving someone though doesn’t always mean that you get along 100% and have the same personality.

Our personalities are far from the same. I am a very active independent driven person who likes to do just…everything. Guitar, bowling, golf, jiu jitsu, running, drawing, travel, games, writing, shooting, and almost anything else you could think of (besides jumping out of planes). I like to at least try something if it’s something that interests me. I don’t do things just to annoy people, either. I wouldn’t ever do something just because she didn’t want me to – although sometimes if it’s something I want to do working really hard to be great at it and rub it in her face makes me feel a little good.

I never said I was perfect.

It makes me feel good, because I don’t want to limit myself like that. My mom is